Massimo Masserini, Italian racer athlete of great technical depth (master world slalom champion IFCA 2006, FW world champion GMaster 2009, WORLD CHAMPION GMaster FORMULA WINDSURFING 2010) But even clinical psychologist, Sport psychologist, Educationalist, Hypnotist and clinical sexologist, Professor at University Popolare di Bergamo Nicholas Flamel, he prepared his sixth episode for RIWmag.
5 winning power phrases to say to ourselves (using the internal dialogue: in sport psychology is called "Self Talk")
1. I'm fine!
May seem like a contradiction. How can I say I'm fine, can I win ", If it's not true? How do I get optimism, When in fact, I feel stressed out, loser or frustrated? You'll have to interact with your unconscious, If you manage to introject positivity, chance, try without having "nothing to lose" canalizzerete a purposeful thought. But this "I'm fine, can I win ", to add "I want to win my fears".
Positive thinking is important and necessary in everyday life. However, positive thinking does not mean denying the existence of a problem or forget the difficulties. This is, simply, to face reality with energy and motivation to handle that.
Look at things in their negative, Repeat phrases like "I'm bad", "they're making life impossible" or similar thoughts, door only to lock yourself in a situation of distress even stronger. Better take a deep breath and say to ourselves, "I'm fine and I want to win my fears, difficulties, This competition etc.. ".
Give it a try! You can't make a phone call because you have anxiety ? You say, aloud, "I'm fine" firmly "I'm fine and I want to win my fear" say it with conviction and energy. You'll immediately notice an inner strength, able to give you the necessary momentum to make that call.
2. I can do!
Always place the pronoun "I" in the phrase. You are the protagonists of your life and then you have to load your problems. If you don't find the motivation within you, No one can do it at your place; who can help you better than yourself?
Don't be obsessed by your limits and don't take excuses: "I won't make it because they are not up to par" or "there are people stronger than me"
Think about your limits become passive; do not fall into these thoughts defeatist. Look in the mirror and see it can do. "I can do it" is one of the phrases that treat and we should all use every day.
3. I I deserve it
Make an examination of conscience: how much time you devote to yourself? Most of you puts labour needs, of the children, of the partner, of family members, of the dog to its. I ask you to be a little selfish but with a "healthy selfishness". At least an hour a day for yourself, to follow your interests, your affections and friendships, or even to do absolutely nothing. If you belong to that category of people who fan everything for others, putting their needs ahead of those of others, Be careful: at the end you might get to the limit of your forces and discover, Maybe, that others recognize very little of what you have done for them.
4. Everything passes away
It may be that right now you have a problem that does not leave you live, that haunts and for stress you have begun to fall ill. You are feeling more tired and a whirlwind of negative thoughts doesn't go out of your head. You even severe headaches , and you get sick often, or do you have pains in different parts of the body.
Take a moment to reflect, breathe with your belly, a slow, deep abdominal breathing, Sit down. You have to convince yourself and think that everything passes, that life goes on and that nothing stays the same forever. Remember: more you cling, you focus on problems, more problems will dock to you, you suffer and be hurt. (a sailboat anchored on the seabed, Surely it is firm, but it's also a prisoner in the same even if you don't take away from the seabed). If something in a couple's relationship is not working, talk. If something does not fit at work, try to solve it, not "store" all. If your sports equipment does not convince you change it. Do not keep things eternally within.
Life goes by fast, now is even faster, It is important to become aware of the "Hic et Nunc" (here and now), nothing is final. Relax a bit and repeat two simple words that heal: "Everything must go, everything must go ".
5. You love with passion and be healthy Generous.
Love and generosity heal, protect, wrap it and at the same time release. However, to use the word "love" as a cure, do not speak only of the feeling that experience for loved ones. I refer especially to love ourselves, that feeling which reinforces self-esteem, pushing, day by day, find happiness for the little things that make you feel good and that, undoubtedly, you deserve. You love passionately on your body, your qualities and flaws that make you unique. You love with passion your way of being, your character and your personality. You love and take your passion your sport; If that day does not want to work out, and you want to do is let go and not work out, always do what you love at this time. The workout "obsessive" never produces excellent results. When there is a difficulty, be aware of being good people, able to overcome it. Trust yourself and your unconscious because you love each other, you know each other well and you know you possess good qualities. Be generous with yourself and with others, use the healthy generosity and will make you feel better.
Good passion to all!
text: Massimo Masserini 4 www.RIWmag.com
photo courtesy: JC (c) PWA