Massimo Masserini, Italian racer athlete of great technical depth (master world slalom champion IFCA 2006, FW world champion GMaster 2009, WORLD CHAMPION GMaster FORMULA WINDSURFING 2010) But even clinical psychologist, Sport psychologist, Educationalist, Hypnotist and clinical sexologist, Professor at University Popolare di Bergamo Nicholas Flamel, has prepared its fourth episode for RIWmag.
PERFORMANCE ANXIETY IN SPORT : THE FEAR THAT CRIPPLES
5 useful behaviors to remove fear for the provision
In our society and ESPECIALLY in SPORTS, having to "live up" and can't go wrong is a very common fear: the error is not admitted, you do not want to accept the consequences and losses (natural, psychological care, social, Professional, relational databases, sports etc.)
The person, and the sportsman, sensing this fear feels a prisoner, caged in his thoughts, as if you had walked over a minefield, ready to explode, always obsessed with thoughts and ritualistic behaviors adopts, and every competition is experienced as a proof that can undermine your self-confidence. Fear often paralyzes, and people who complain about this anticipatory anxiety, mulling over very, don't make choices, and despite the rituals that lower the tension, they do not decide, recall, wait and try to avoid unnecessary perfectionism possible errors. Often feel guilty and ashamed because they don't know if they will make the right choice, and the results will hardly arrive.
The lives of these anxious people is an existential oblivion, a vacuum that also involves people who are next, invested with approval requests. All this highly explosive condition leads to a buildup of tension that the anxious person embodies one developing symptoms such as tiredness, cramps, muscle stiffness, neck pain, gastritis, ulcers etc …
Frequently people with performance anxiety, have lived very oppressive parental, they got fussy parents who don't admit mistakes; very often parents perfectionists, obsessive, they could not accept that their son could go wrong.
The communication adopted by some parents or caregivers, a "double bind" (play but don't sweat) against small children can affect the growth of a guy. For G. Bateson the message in double bind, Maybe reinforced by teachers at school, can bring particularly sensitive subjects to develop dangerous schizophrenic traits in adolescence.
The symptoms of hyper-anxious people are: feeling of lack of air, fast breath labored breathing, rapid heartbeat, neck pain, headaches, joint pain, caused by the continued state of alert and tension, increase in body temperature and high sweating.
It is necessary within familiar contexts, sports and educational, foster the ability to "go wrong" and develop the skill of being able to fix it with skill and tenacity, without demonizing the error, to help young people to develop a fair and balanced judgement. This will avoid the kid and adults not to be too rigid and strict with oneself, with an overwhelming sense of guilt and paralyzing much to feel wrong and inadequate.
Give your children the chance to make mistakes, maintaining though a proper formal education with clear rules and defined, help them grow strong and with a good personality that will be crucial in adulthood to make decisions and to accept their responsibilities.
Sometimes we forget that we were children and learning to walk we had to "fall", in order to raise more and more "strong".
Here's 5 behaviors for not being trapped in paralysis of performance anxiety:
1 AWARE that mistake is inevitable for anyone, and just doing it wrong can be learned.
2 DECIDE to take a "Street": not to decide is always a decision and most likely more wrong because she doesn't "move". We accept the consequences and will try to better manage.
3 COURAGE making a decision, does not mean "unconsciousness". Only those who are afraid can overcome it with courage. We accept fear and we will overcome with the right strategy.
4 Positivity in facing the choice, because the commitment to avoid the error brings only sadness and negativity. Think positive "attracts" positive choices and could hardly take the wrong decision
text: Massimo Masserini 4 www.RIWmag.com
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